Sex in Human Loving

Games are played by people who are afraid of intimacy, either in general or with each other. They are a way of getting close to others and having meaningful transactions without the surrender that intimacy requires.

Green’s con is either coming on strong by being seductive or forward, or else playing hard to get. Brown’s gimmick or weakness is sexual desire or a need for power over people. The payoff may be either wet or dry. In wet games, the payoff is orgasm (finally), preceded by a lot of insincerity and followed by a lot of mixed feelings on both sides. In dry games, Green’s payoff is a feeling of victory, and Brown’s is frustration and the reactions to that.

The payoffs in any game are not only enjoyed or suffered at the moment but are filed away for future use, very much like grocery store trading stamps

Some people think that any set of transactions which is repeated over and over is a game, but this is not so

most human relationships (at least 51 per cent) are based on trickery and subterfuges, some lively and amusing, and others vicious and sinister. It is only a fortunate few, such as mothers and infants, or true friends and lovers, who are completely straight with each other

On a short-term basis, a winner is one who becomes captain of the team, dates the Queen of the May, or wins at poker.

A winner is defined as a person who fulfills his contract with the world and with himself. That is, he sets out to do something, says that he is committed to doing it, and in the long run does it.

A winner says things like: “I made a mistake, but it won’t happen again” or “Now I know the right way to do it.”

The best way to tell a winner from a loser is this: A winner is a person who knows what he’ll do next if he loses, but doesn’t talk about it; a loser is one who doesn’t know what he’ll do if he loses, but talks about what he’ll do if he wins.

there are several types of scripts as to timing. The six main classes are the Never, the Always, the Until, the After, the Over and Over, and the Open End scripts