Bad Feminist

Feminism is a choice, and if a woman does not want to be a feminist, that is her right, but it is still my responsibility to fight for her rights

We have to be more interested in making things better than just being right, or interesting, or funny.

ike most people, I’m full of contradictions, but I also don’t want to be treated like shit for being a woman.

My favorite definition of “feminist” is one offered by Su, an Australian woman who, when interviewed for Kathy Bail’s 1996 anthology DIY Feminism, said feminists are “just women who don’t want to be treated like shit.”

e need more. We need pop culture that demonstrates not only the ways people are different but also the ways we are very much alike.

Feminism has given me peace. Feminism has given me guiding principles for how I write, how I read, how I live. I do stray from these principles, but I also know it’s okay when I do not live up to my best feminist self.

I’m more interested in a show called Grown Women about a group of friends who finally have great jobs and pay all their bills in a timely manner but don’t have any savings and still deal with sloppy love lives and hangovers on Monday morning at work.

I love being with someone who is endlessly interesting because we are so different. Wanting to belong to people or a person is not about finding a mirror image of myself.

Luck and loneliness, it would seem, are very compatible.

Movies, more often than not, tell the stories of men as if men’s stories are the only stories that matter