Self-esteem: The Lazy Person’s Guide!

Improving your self-esteem isn’t about becoming selfish, loud, competitive and arrogant. It’s about taking care of yourself so that you have the strength and energy to help and give to others when appropriate.

THAT’S IT, I CAN’T DO IT
Negative thinkers often tend to think that if something has gone wrong once it will always go wrong.
You have a bad day at work and you decide

Rejection may not come from within the home. Low self-esteem could start with harsh criticism, rejection, ridicule or abuse outside the home, most commonly in school. The disapproving comments of teachers or negative nicknames like ‘spotty’, ‘fatty’ or ‘four-eyes’ are common examples of rejection. They can have an injurious and lasting impact on our sense of self-worth.

High self-esteem isn’t the same as selfishly serving your own interests and having an inflated idea of your own self-worth. You can easily spot the difference between a person with a healthy sense of self-esteem and a person who is arrogant.

Self-esteem without self-acceptance sets you up for disappointments, stress and unhappiness when misfortune arises and self-esteem is attacked. You need to learn to accept yourself, warts and all. One advantage of this is that it becomes easier to accept others and their fallibilities.

Whatever the cause, when self-esteem is low, the world you live in is a frightening and unpredictable one because you are always dependent on the whims of others or the turn of events. If you can compare your life to a car, when self-esteem is low you are not in the driving seat. Other people or events are steering the wheel, while you crouch in the back wondering where they will take you next. That’s exactly what low self-esteem does to your life. You are alive, but you aren’t really living.

You are alive, but you aren’t really living.

You need to feel relaxed and happy in all aspects of your life to function optimally.

When self-esteem is low, ‘life is doubt’.

When you have self-esteem, ‘life is just a bowl of cherries’.