It's All in Your Head

You’re Just Where You’re Supposed to Be
We compare ourselves to others in dozens of ways, from the sublime to the ridiculous: how much we earn, the size of our homes, the cost of our cars, the extent of our social lives, our appearance, and many others.
We’re taught this behavior by our parents, who are pressured into it by a society that for better or worse uses economic, material, and external factors as yardsticks.
Comparing ourselves to others will, little by little, year by year, destroy our chances for happiness in life. It’s a race we can never win.
Instead, we need to pursue those things that bring us pleasure, not the things others pursue or things we think should make us happy.
We need to base decisions on our own lives, the lives we want to lead, not other people’s lives or the lives others think we should lead.
God wants us to realize we are all incomparable.

It may sound harsh to say comparing yourself to others is a disease, but I really believe it’s like a slow-growing cancer on your soul. It may not kill your spirit overnight, but little by little, year by year, it destroys your chances for happiness

You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.

Voltaire was right when he wrote, “Men who seek happiness are like drunkards who can never find their house but are sure they have one.”

Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names.”

Stop being your own worst enemy: Own your success.
Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness: You don’t have to go it alone.
Don’t wait for the best or right time: There’s no time like now, so take the action.
You don’t need the best: Your best is enough.
Stop looking backward in anger and regret: The past is past.
Stop living in the future: Tomorrow is too late.

Take out your journal and turn to a blank page. Title it “Joys.” Start listing all the things and activities that bring you joy. Once you find yourself struggling to come up with more items, put your journal down for a minute. Close your eyes, take one deep breath, and go back and read your list.

You have a choice. You can hold on to your anger and regret or you can let it go.

We spend our time envying people whom we wouldn’t wish to be.
—Jean Rostand

Yet we keep on searching, despite, and perhaps because of, our continuing unhappiness. We keep on banging our heads against the wall. We think happiness must be just around the corner, in our next office, at the party on Friday night, with the person we’ve met online