Daniel Goleman

Anyone can become angry —that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way —this is not easy.

to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way.

It is with the heart that one sees rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.

Only a potent love—the urgency of saving a cherished child—could lead a parent to override the impulse for personal survival. Seen from the intellect, their self-sacrifice was arguably irrational; seen from the heart, it was the only choice to make.

patients regain some sense of control over what is happening to them, a direct unlearning of the lesson of helplessness that the trauma itself imparted

antisocial teenage girls don't get violent—they get pregnant.

And then a child needs a repertoire of ways to disrupt what is about to happen—everything from running away to threatening to tell

emphasis is on taking responsibility for decisions and actions, and following through on commitments

Anyone can become angry —that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way —this is not easy.

ARISTOTLE, The Nicomachean Ethics

For one, impulse is the medium of emotion; the seed of all impulse is a feeling bursting to express itself in action. Those who are at the mercy of impulse—who lack self-control—suffer a moral deficiency: The ability to control impulse is the base of will and character. By the same token, the root of altruism lies in empathy, the ability to read emotions in others; lacking a sense of another's need or despair, there is no caring. And if there are any two moral stances that our times call for, they are precisely these, self-restraint and compassion.