Eric Robertson

Anger is beneficial to relationships
As the saying goes - the heart grows fonder with time and distance (or something like that), there is also a saying that goes something like this - arguments and fights grow people closer together. This saying (unlike the other one in my opinion), is very true in the sense that when you argue with your significant other, you are teaching and learning each others’ boundaries. When you keep your frustrations and anger inside, all you are doing is letting your partner know that what they are doing is okay and so they continue to do whatever it is that makes you angry. This can be very detrimental to any relationship. So, if you use your anger to solve problems other than vent and rage, then a strong and close relationship is what you will have

Everywhere, we see self-help books that are titled “how to get what you want through a positive attitude” or “Learn positive behaviors and say goodbye to anger and sadness forever.” What these self-help books are trying to do is brainwash your mind into thinking that the only way to grow personally and become better is to act upon positive emotions and be positive. This is false because as a person, we need to feel our negative emotions

The best thing to do to take care of this is to accept that what is done is done and the future is untold, so all that matters is what you can do right now. What you do in the present can help

Don’t overthink, just do. After

you learn from past mistakes and alter your perception of what will happen in the future.

The first step is to start accepting that fear is a part of life. It’s a part of you, it’s a part of our history and it’s a big part of how well we succeed. Acknowledging and accepting that fear is not going anywhere will determine how capable you are of overcoming it

Admitting your fears internally or out loud can help you gain an advantage over them and turn your fear into courage and strength. To do this, name what you are afraid of and then view them as opportunities to conquer them

Your fears will only disappear or become manageable when you learn how to face them. This is easier said than done, but you can face your fears through positive self-talk, overcoming them with a friend, or even through exposure therapy. Exposure therapy is when you build up to your fear by overcoming the little steps on how to get there.

Controlling our fears is the easy part. Facing them and overcoming them is the hard part

. Apologizing doesn’t mean you are wrong, however, it does mean that the relationship in front of you means more to you personally than your own ego or pride