John Gottman

en have no problem with a woman expressing those emotions.

The goal is to understand the unique, amazing, annoying, complex, frustrating, fascinating person you are in a relationship with

A woman’s needs and emotions can vary throughout her menstrual cycle, although the differences may be extreme for some women and barely noticeable for others

These hormonal peaks and valleys and cyclical changes in a woman’s emotional state can alter her desire for, and receptiveness to, sex.

s also important to know that this fluctuating need for an alpha and a beta male at any given time does not mean a woman needs two different men

What makes a relationship most vulnerable to betrayal is avoiding conflict and hiding parts of yourself so you don’t “rock the boat.”

Each time partners turn toward each other, they are funding what I’ve come to call their emotional bank account.

The big challenge is to notice when your partner does turn toward you. Remember: unhappy couples tend to underestimate how often this occurs.

happy couples live by the credo “When you are in pain, the world stops and I listen.”

ill they read or listen to the news together or silently alone?