Iyanla Vanzant

Love will come upon you, throw its arms around you, and transform your entire existence. Unfortunately, most of us won’t recognize the experience or understand the impact when it’s happening.

Perhaps it’s because love rarely shows up in the places that we expect it to or looks the way we expect it to look.

I also discovered that love is more than just a good feeling. It is more than just being needed or having your needs met.

I realized that flying was something I did for myself, within myself, when I was able to relax.

We thought that because we needed and wanted each other everything would be just fine. That’s what we thought! In reality, we were still too confused, too needy, and too afraid that we weren’t good enough for each other.

spent most of my life silently praying that this man would love me. When he finally said he did, it didn’t look anything like the way I expected.

I had to throw away those things which had sentimental value but were no longer practical

When I saw the truth, I had to take responsibility for letting the house get so messy, and I had to own up to the fact that I was the only one who could clean up the mess.

The other person keeps dropping hints, letting you know that it’s time to go. You deny it! Why? You don’t know why, but I can tell you that the meantime is fraught with don’t knows and can’t do’s.

When the relationship at issue is an intimate, loving one, the attempt to move forward without addressing the pain only complicates matters, further poisoning the relationship.