Gabor Mate

In many children—and I was certainly one—early reactions like these become embedded in the nervous system, mind, and body, playing havoc with future relationships.

The home becomes a place where we unwittingly re-create, as I did, scenarios reminiscent of those that wounded us when we were small.

She grew up believing she had to take care of everybody. “There was never any respite in her,” says Neufeld. “There was no internal resting place.”