Andrea Owen

This is about telling someone your experience so you can sort out your feelings. It’s about someone bearing witness to your struggle. About being seen and heard in your pain

How can people give you what you want and be an important part of the growth of your relationship if you aren’t communicating?

Whether you numb out because you hate your life or just to cope, the remedy is to look at all the troubles you don’t want to, walk through the struggle and feel it, and keep moving forward

Emotional pain can be like physical pain, warning us that something is wrong. Communicating what’s important, getting our attention, and letting us know whether or not we should change something in our lives.

The first tool

name the feelings out loud when they come up

The second tool

why would anyone want to be around me if I’m this damaged.”

But the truth is that the only way to let feelings go is to let them in, feel them, and let them go. Your feelings are messengers, and they want to be heard, honored, and let go.

The third tool