Natasha Lunn

When I asked psychiatrist Dr Megan Poe why people lose their sense of self in relationships, she said it’s sometimes because they’re trying to ‘echo-locate the other and not reveal the self’ and merge with them.

More consistent than any affection was a careless – perhaps unintentional – cruelty that I silently accepted and used as further proof that I was unlovable.

Insecurity is the most unattractive quality in a woman,’ after I’d summoned up the courage to ask why he took so long to reply to my messages.